One of the most profound experiences that we can have in our lives is the connection we have with other human beings. People in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to feel healthier, happier and more satisfied with their lives and less likely to have mental or physical health problems or to do things that are bad for their health. People in supportive, loving relationships help each other practically as well as emotionally. Supportive partners share the good times and help each other through the tough ones.
A loving friendship can halve the troubles and double the joys and, by doing so, can make life’s journey all the more enjoyable. So, when relationships work well, it can be a joyful and positive experience. However, as I am sure we have all experienced, when relationships break down and we find ourselves in a conflict situation or we simply do not connect with someone, it can be draining and disappointing and have a detrimental effect on our happiness.
So here are a few 3 tips to help you to build positive relationships in your life.
1. Accept and celebrate differences
The first step towards building positive and healthy relationships is to accept and appreciate that we are all different. It is our differences that make us so unique and special. Opening your mind to what you can learn from people rather than trying to change them can help you to cultivate a growth mind-set and develop tolerance, which is strength and a virtue!
Listening is a hugely important skill in boosting another person’s self-esteem, the silent form of flattery that makes people feel supported, valued and respected. We were given two ears and only one mouth, because listening is twice as hard as talking!
3. Give people your time and focus
Giving time to people is a huge gift. In a world where time is of the essence and we find ourselves attempting to fit in so much, we don’t always have the time to give to people. Technology can, if we are not careful, erode our ability to build real rapport especially when we let our mobile devices distract us. Being present and focused when you are with someone will create a much stronger and deeper connection.
The relationships we cultivate with other people is the very touchstone of our existence. It can help us to feel safer, stronger, healthier and happier. For these reasons alone it is well worth devoting quality time, energy and effort into developing and building strong and positive relationships.
The most important ingredient we put
into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
Stephen R. Covey