The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.’
Stephen R. Covey


When you cultivate positive and supportive relationships in your life, you are more likely to feel happier and more fulfilled. When a relationship works well, it can be a very happy experience. However, as you may well have experienced, when a relationship breaks down and you find yourself in a conflict situation, it can be draining and disappointing and can have a detrimental effect on your wellbeing.
Before you begin to develop positive relationships with others you need to make sure that you have a healthy relationship with yourself.

One of the biggest challenges you may experience in your relationships is the fact that we are all different and we can perceive the world in so many different ways. Certainly one stumbling block when trying to build relationships is a desire or an expectation of the way that people will think and behave.

The first step, therefore, is to accept that we are all different and on that basis, we can all bring different things to the party. You will have your own unique set of strengths and as a result you will have your own unique set of limitations. It is indeed better and more productive to spend time concentrating on improving your own limitations rather than focusing on those of others.

Focusing on other people’s better qualities and feeding back on their strengths is a way to reinforce future positive behaviour. Many relationships break down because more time is spent eroding each other’s self-esteem through negative criticism.

The danger is that you can try to get other people to shrink-fit into something or somebody that they are not. Also, it is important to recognise that often, what we don’t like in others can be something that we don’t like in ourselves!

In a world that has cultivated so many isolated environments and working conditions, it is important to examine how much time you spend with people. This also means being in the company of people, not with virtual strangers via the internet, Facebook and various other social media networks.

‘The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.’
Theodore Roosevelt

Relationship Building – Steps to Success

  • The relationship you have with yourself is the most important
  • Actively listen to what other people have to say
  • Accept and celebrate the fact that everyone is different
  • Focus on people’s strengths rather than their limitations
  • Be open-minded and learn to trust people
  • Develop etiquette around mobile technology.

Positive Relationships

One of the most profound experiences that we can have in our lives is the connection we have with other human beings. Positive and supportive relationships will help us to feel healthier, happier and more satisfied with our lives. So here are a few tips to help you to develop more positive and healthy relationships in all areas of your life:

Use these tips to develop and maintain happy, healthy relationships:

  • Ensure that the relationship you have with yourself is a positive one.
  • Accept and celebrate the fact that we are all different.
  • Actively listen to really hear what other people have to say.
  • Give people time and ‘be present’ when you are with them.
  • Develop and work on your communication skills.
  • Manage mobile technology and be aware of its pitfalls.
  • Learn to give and take constructive feedback.
  • Open your heart and find the courage to trust.
  • Learn to be more understanding and empathetic.
  • Treat people as you would like to be treated yourself.